I heard someone say yesterday “It is what it is” — the latest catch phrase that means absolutely nothing but is suppose to make you feel better. Like a linguistic placebo.
This pithy saying is the bastard child of so many sayings that have gone before it including Doris Day’s Que Sera Sera, the spiritual “Everything happens for a reason,” Lady GaGa’s “Born This Way,” or every parent’s “Because I said so.” I think they are all suppose to make us feel better — here is life’s birthday present and it cannot be refunded or exchanged or even criticized because, well, it is what it is. But what if what it is sucks? What if it’s underwear and we want a pony? Do we just take it? Where does “It is what it is” meet Network’s “I’m as mad as hell and I’m not going to take this anymore“?
I encourage you to watch the clip from Network where people open their windows and yell “I’m mad as hell…” because I wonder why aren’t we doing this? Why are we running around telling each other “it is what it is” when in so many cases we should really be saying “it was what it shouldn’t be and I can do something about it.” Even if that “something” is nothing more than being mad about as hell about it.
When I was growing up there was this “wisdom” circulating that if a woman is raped she should just lay back and enjoy it — I’m not kidding those were the exact words that were said. But today I think we are all being told to lay back and enjoy it. And if you don’t know what “it” is, then you aren’t paying attention and if you aren’t paying attention, I hate to be the one to point it out, but you are for sure being screwed. Are you enjoying it?